Just a quote....
"I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity." ~ Gilda Radner
This is just a quote that when I read it made me think and in some ways I feel like I can kind of relate to it.
Personality first?
Last night, I was sitting there talking to my brother and we saw this programme, which sparked off the question
"Do you think it is true when people say the first thing they notice about someone is their personality?"
Now I don't think this is true. I mean when you meet someone, it has been said in the first couple of seconds (or something along those lines, I forget now), that a woman will decide if she likes someone or not. This is also backed up by an experiment carried out, where photographs of people's faces were taken to various stores and shown to employers. They were then asked of the people, purely by going on their photo who would the employer pick to work for them. It turned out that they picked the people deemed (probably by a consensus found before hand) most attractive. When asked why they made that choice, they said that they considered those people to be the most reliable and friendly from the array of photographs.
When you meet someone, once you get talking yes you may start to get a feel for their personality which helps you to decide whether you truely like them or not. However at the same time you also look at them for what they look like. Everyone has their own idea of what beauty is so this person may not be the most beautiful person to someone else but as they say "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." :)
I mean look at the example of high street shops, designer stores and hair salons, they go for a certain look, most who work there are attractive or "quirky" at the least. I guess in some ways it is a type cast, in some ways it is not. When you walk down the street you don't exactly look at someone and think "Oh, they have a nice personality." You look at what they are wearing, what they look like, if they are attractive or not.
Of course if you meet someone over the internet or talk to them on the phone then you don't see what they look like, as someone pointed out to me. But if it is face to face you do look at someone and judge them by their appearance.
